America’s latest First Lady Melania Trump is not someone who should be admired, and quite frankly, is a horrible role model for girls and women around the world.
And I say this not because she posed nude in photos that surfaced during her time as a model in her younger years. Melania has every right to define self-expression on her own terms. Even though she inexcusably lied about having a college degree, I don’t disparage Melania for being a college dropout. College isn’t for everyone and Melania committed herself to a fashion and modeling career. And she certainly isn’t the first person to take a phone number from a man who is on another date with someone else in a club.
If anything, these publicly known life choices reflect her keen self-awareness and sense of agency. This is how Melania Trump should be viewed – as a woman controlling her own destiny who is fully accountable for her actions.
We have no idea what ultimately attracted Melania to Donald Trump -- it could have been money, curiosity, or his narcissistic brashness misinterpreted as confidence. She may not have been aware of Trump’s racist past or his poor track record with women. Nevertheless, she decided to have a relationship with Donald and have a child with him. And she’s been all in ever since.
As a wife of a presidential candidate, and now First Lady, Melania Trump has promoted racism. She did her best to reach national audiences to promote racist birtherism lies about former President Obama by insinuating America’s first Black president wasn’t legally American. This was a future First Lady messaging to young white girls and women that it’s okay to be racist. It should come as no surprise that Melania remains in union with a man who will go down as the most racist president in modern history because she helped him legitimize racism as a campaign tool.
Melania was born in Slovenia, and as the Washington Post reported, possibly violated terms of her work permit and American visa requirements. And in doing so, arguably engaged in a deportable offence upon her arrival in the United States. Ironically, she has seen her husband happily engage in systematic child abuse and family torture with his cruel and heartless “zero tolerance” immigration policy that is separating children from their families around the country. Regardless, Melania chooses to stay married to a man committing crimes against humanity and sends a dangerous message to girls and women that marital tolerance knows no bounds.
The Thief in Chief
Melania and her decision to plagiarize a speech given by former First Lady Michelle Obama during the Republican convention should also never be forgotten. Melania messaged to girls and boys that it's okay to steal when it suits your immediate needs.
Melania has also chosen to stay in her marriage even though her husband has committed countless acts of adultery, admitted that he’s a sexual predator, and had multiple women come forward with allegations of sexual assault. Trump has publicly humiliated Melania on multiple occasions and only God knows how he treats Melania in private. Melania sends the worst possible message of incomprehensible tolerance of spousal disregard of emotions and feelings and marital violation of wedding vows is okay.
The Cyber Bully Enabler
In spite of her decisions and the man she’s married to, Melania has the audacity to start a Be Best campaign and here is the stated mission: “The mission of BE BEST is to focus on some of the major issues facing children today, with the goal of encouraging children to BE BEST in their individual paths, while also teaching them the importance of social, emotional, and physical health. BE BEST will concentrate on three main pillars: well-being, social media use, and opioid abuse.”
Melania has co-signed spending her life with a man committed to destroying the environment, children and families with his policy and actions. Her husband is America’s first presidential cyber bully and neither one of them are aggressively addressing the opioid crisis that’s happening around the nation.
Melania has no credibility to speak about anything that suggests empowerment and well-being. She chooses to stay with a man that models for their son how to live a life of disrespecting women and using power to harm, threaten and ruin lives. If she can’t put her own son’s well-being first, Melania sure as hell won’t give a damn about other people’s children. She embarrasses the title of First Lady and Be Best to remember that.
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